Why should a Christian woman submit?
June 3, 2008
I have been contemplating the meaning of biblical womanhood lately, and I’ve come to the conclusion that each woman must come to the place in her life where it is obvious that God is humbling her, and bringing her to a place of submission.
This is a mystery, but it’s all part of God’s plan - submission.
When we submit to authority as a citizen of our country, we show respect and reverence due to those in authority such as police officers, government agents, or community and civic leaders. Out of humility of our position, we actively and purposefully place ourselves in a position of servitude as we esteem and honor those in rankings of authority.
I believe that God has ordained order, ranks, and levels within the Kingdom Army. The family unit is one way in which the Lord reveals His awesome order. When a husband and wife begin to understand true divine order of the Christian home, the ideas of submission versus dominion become clear.
Truth be told, both man and woman were created for dominion, to rule over the earth and subdue it. But neither man nor woman were created to dominate each other. However, here’s food for thought: both man and woman were created to submit to one another! You will see this as true when you read many of Paul’s letters in the New Testament to the Church. Submitting to one another “in the fear of the Lord” is something both husbands and wives will participate in as brothers and sisters in the Lord, and also as husband and wife here on earth.
The wife is specifically requested to submit to her own husband as unto the Lord. I believe the emphasis here is not on the fact that it is the wife who should submit (because although the men of the homes are to lead with decisiveness and do have authority to carry out the family plans and make the final decisions, it will become clear in a home that is actually in order that a man will submit in friendship at times to his wife’s requests). This is absolutely NOT in any way related to women who want to control their husbands by manipulation or coercion. Instead, I believe the emphasis is on the fact that her submission is as unto the Lord. Note that it is considered a given that submission will take place in the Christian family. It goes both ways (and I’ll explain this in a minute). Women have been given the specific instruction to submit to her own husband. God didn’t command the man to submit to her (notice this, but keep reading).
However, here’s the deal.
A wise woman builds her house, while a foolish one tears it down.
A wise woman will discern that her submission only breeds a spirit of submission and peace within her home. What she sows, she reaps. Therefore, if she submits to her husband long enough and with a joyful attitude, it won’t be long before she finds that her husband may submit to many of her requests (notice I didn’t say demands!)
She will receive the answers to her many prayers, but not through manipulation, coercion, or domination. It won’t happen through yelling, shouting, criticizing, nagging, or harassing .
Ladies, if you are doing this to your husband, repent! Think about it…how often do we read parenting books and listen to parenting experts tell us never to treat our children with disrespect by nagging at them, yelling and shouting, or criticizing them? Now, if we treat our children with respect, how much more should we respect our dear husbands?
When we activate the fruit of the spirit called patience, and develop the godly habit of servitude and humility, we will serve out of respect to our Savior for giving us a husband to serve and show forth Christ’s love to him…and in due time, God will honor us with our heart’s desires. And not once will we have to nag, yell, or plead with our husbands for the things that we desire. God will move on our behalf as we are obedient to Him. Our prayers become more powerful the more we seek to serve our fellow man (our husbands).
In summary, a Christian woman should submit:
- to give reverence to her husband
- to assist in maintaining the order of ranking within the family unit so that her husband may have the power to lead in his home, as opposed to operating in frustration because his wife has tied his hands in an attempt to control her environment
- to allow the fruit of patience to be worked in her life
- to allow humility and servitude to become second nature in her heart
- to bring glory to God as He becomes her main source even when her husband is unable to meet her requests
Submitting to my husband?
March 20, 2008
A Study on Marriage by Sister Karen
This study has been on my heart for a long time. God has been dealing with me about this for quite some time. But it is so contrary to my own understanding and what society tells us today. I guess that is why God reminds me to not lean to my own understanding but in all my ways acknowledge him and he shall direct my paths.
Secrets To a Successful Marriage
March 20, 2008
Secrets to A Successful Marriage
Chat Transcript
June 2006
11:03:32 [deeva58] amen
11:04:29 [Bettye] As we begin to talk about secrets to a strong marriage, we must begin with ourselves. God always starts with us first.
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